4 Tips to Deal With False Allegations

How to Respond to False Accusations

Three Parts:

Rumors, smears, and unjust characterizations can happen online, in the workplace, and in the courtroom. Some false stories die, and some spread. Whether you're falsely accused to your face, behind your back, in the court, or in print, it is vital to stay calm and know your rights. With patience, and the support of those you trust, you can work toward recovering your reputation and self-confidence.


Responding to Rumors

  1. Gather yourself.If a coworker, acquaintance or loved one accuses you of something you have not done, it is best to confront them calmly and directly. If you are being accused face to face, you may have to take a deep breath before you begin. If the accusations come to you as a written or recorded message, you will have the opportunity to wait and respond when you are calm and collected.
  2. State the facts.Once you are calm, state the truth as concisely as you can. If your accuser is ready to hear you, this can save a lot of back and forth. If your accuser is not yet ready to hear you, check your frustration.
    • Even if the conversation ends without your accuser taking you at your word, know that they may come to believe you when they have had time to process what you said.
  3. Get the story.Find out where the accusations come from, and why your accuser might be disposed to believe them. If your accuser is unwilling or unable to reveal the source, ask them if there is someone they would recommend you speak to.
    • If they refuse to help you, ask them to imagine that you are innocent, and ask what they would advise you to do in that case. Ask "whatcanyou tell me?"
    • You may have to resign yourself to never getting the full story. Let the rumors die rather than reviving them with investigations.
  4. Enlist help.Let your friends or trusted coworkers know that you have been concerned about the rumor, and ask them to speak up for you. If you have a good network, you may never have to defend yourself again.
    • If you know the accusation began with a careless conjecture or a misunderstanding, rather than malice, ask your accuser to speak up and help you stop the false rumor.
  5. Forgive as you go.Remind yourself that what looks like malice is often a mistake or a misunderstanding.Avoid getting angry or retaliating. You may be judged more by the way you behave under pressure than by the rumor.
    • Avoid making false allegations in return, as they may compromise your reputation as a teller of truth.
  6. Re-invest in your relationships.False accusations can cause a lingering sense of damage, or can push a relationship into a crisis. Have honest, non-judgmental talks with family and friends, and seek counseling if a serious rift has occurred.Take the initiative and invite someone out for coffee who you haven't seen in a while.
  7. Re-invest in yourself.Your self-esteem can suffer when you are falsely accused. Remind yourself of the facts of the matter: a healthy self-esteem is grounded in realism.Self-care is key: exercise, and eat a balanced diet. Make your home comfortable and beautiful, and wear clothing you feel good in.
    • Repeating affirmations such as "people care about me," or "I am proud of my accomplishments" can help you recover from the hurt of a false accusation.

Responding to an HR Investigation

  1. Cooperate.If you are the subject of an HR investigation, remember that the representative is required, by work and in some cases by law,to investigate accusations. If you help your investigator with the case, you are less likely to lend credence to character-related accusations.
  2. Ask questions.Get as may of the facts as you can. Ask what you can expect as the investigation proceeds, and if you should modify any of your work practices in the meantime. Ask how you will know when the investigation is done, who will tell you, and when it is likely to be resolved.
    • If there is information withheld, ask "what can you tell me about X?"
    • Make sure to obtain your investigator's name and contact information.
    • Finally, ask with whom you are permitted to discuss the investigation.
  3. Learn your rights.If a false accusation is not dismissed, you may have to contest it. False accusations might come to nothing, but you should be prepared in case you are denied a promotion, suspended, or fired. Be calm and forthcoming with your supervisor and anyone else authorized to discuss the case with you.
    • Know that you are not necessarily legally protected from being fired for false or impossible to prove allegations. Unless you have a contract that states the minimum length of your employment, you are likely an "at will" employee, and can be fired for any reason.
    • If you do have a contract that says you can only be fired for committing a crime, or if you believe yourself to be the target of discrimination, you can sue for wrongful termination.

Responding to Published Accusations

  1. Learn your rights.False accusations that are published in print or online are called "libel," while false accusations on television, radio, or in conversation are "slander." Consult a lawyer if you can afford to do so: under certain circumstances, you can bring a defamation case against the person falsely accusing you.
    • Not all false accusations count as defamation. If you are not fully identified, if your character has already come under public scrutiny, if you have made statements that support the false claims, if you are a public figure, or if the person defaming you is a former employer or other protected party, your case may not qualify as defamation in every state.
  2. Publish a refutation.If it is safe for you to do so, providing the public with another side to the story can either kill the story or turn it in your favor. Contact reporters and publishers who are carrying the story and ask them to either remove the false accusations or broadcast your refutation.
    • If you are accused of a crime, consult with a lawyer before making statements on record.
  3. Let it die.The less you respond, the better. Once you have consulted a lawyer or, in less serious cases, made a public statement, you have done as much as you can. If you continue to respond to every instance of slander related to the case, you risk re-invigorating the story.
  4. Release positive content.After the story has died down, search your name online to see what comes up. If the false accusations are still one of the first results, take the time to put positive information about yourself online. Write some articles or make videos that are unrelated to the false accusations. Make a website about things you enjoy, or update your professional profiles.

Community Q&A

  • Question
    How do I deal with false accusations from Family Services?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    State the facts and evidence you may have. Keep your story the same, and don't get frustrated. Stay calm and rational.
  • Question
    I have a co-workers husband texting another co-worker negative things about me. What can I do?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    Nothing. Don't further implicate yourself. Separate from the situation and maintain innocence if questioned further.
  • Question
    What can I do if a parent is guilty of allegations that he has accused me of in recent case?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    Talk to your attorney for advice.
  • Question
    What do I do if a friend falsely accuses me of drug use?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    Ask them why they would accuse you of something so serious. Sometimes, when someone is guilty of something and doesn't know how to deal with it, they accuse someone else of a bad deed they have done. If your friend doesn't have a good reason for accusing you, simply tell them it's wrong and if they want to continue talking to you, they need to trust you.
  • Question
    What should I do if my manager accuses me of theft?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    Politely say you promise you did not steal anything. Say there must have been some misunderstanding, or someone else must have done it. If there are recordings or any other type of evidence available, ask them to examine the evidence.
  • Question
    What do I do if someone accuses me of saying something I didn't say?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    Just be honest and stick up for yourself.
  • Question
    How do I write a statement about a false accusation?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    Is this a false accusation made through a place of work? If that's the case, get a lawyer. This is a serious situation.
  • Question
    We are adopting and got to the matching panel, and someone made an allegation that we are out drinking every night until the early hours. How can we disprove their allegation?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    If the panel asks you, then you deny it. They will investigate this accusation and when it turns out to be false, you will have nothing to worry about.
  • Question
    How do I respond to false accusations that I am unstable and do bad things?
    Michael Tyran
    Community Answer
    You just have to be yourself and act like you always do. Time will solve all the accusations, if they are false.
  • Question
    How do I respond to accusations being leveled against me regarding my abilities as a parent?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    That depends on who the accusations are being made to. Is it Children's Services? CS will investigate and decide whether or not these accusations are true. If not, you may need to either ignore it or contact a lawyer for further assistance.
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  • If you believe yourself to be frequently falsely accused, but those you trust cannot substantiate your fears, you may be experiencing dementia or paranoia. Speak to a health professional if you are concerned or if your loved ones are concerned for you.

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